Victim Blaming: Why It Happens, Why It's Wrong, and Why It Has to Stop
Nothing makes me angrier than victim blaming. It doesn't matter what someone was wearing, where they were, or whether they were drunk or sober — physical contact must be consensual, period. When we ask survivors "what were you wearing?" we tell every abuser that it isn't their fault. And victim blaming has no gender: male survivors are silenced by the same lies that silence women. When you blame the victim, you side with the abuser. Believe survivors. Speak up. Choose better.
My Struggle With Weight Loss and Why Losing Weight Is Harder Than People Think
The Reality of Weight Gain, Stress, and Healthy Habits It occurred to me recently that I have made a lot of posts about diet and exercise, but I don’t talk about the reality of how hard it is to change those things. We develop our eating habits when we are children, and they continue to be shaped by the society we live in, our families, and what is most available to us. Not only do we have to fight with our learned eating habits to be healthier, but we also have to fight our
Complex PTSD Treatment and Recovery: What the Science Says About CPTSD — Part 1: Understanding the Condition and Medications Used to Treat It
In my time spent reading experiences of others with CPTSD, I often come across this misguided idea that CPTSD can't be cured. Though I am still very much in the weeds of treating my own CPTSD, I have recovered a great deal so far, and science suggests that recovery from CPTSD is completely possible.
Healing From Trauma and Finding Your Voice: 10 Years of Diary of a Flopping Fish
I created this site because when I needed information and firsthand survival experiences of something that wasn't intimate partner violence, I couldn't find anything that applied to me. While I was only searching for information, I also concluded that many victims are forced into silence because they are afraid of the repercussions of speaking up about their abuse. It is only after studying the ins and outs of coercive control and how DARVO works that I realized how much of a
Social Media and Mental Health: Why Self-Diagnosing from TikTok Is Dangerous
When I took Abnormal Psychology at Delta Community College it wasn't long before I was questioning whether or not I had every disorder in the book that I had never even considered that I might have or heard of before. When the book stated something along the lines of "most people diagnose themselves with various disorders while reading this book" I breathed a huge sigh of relief
